Wedding Traditions That Need To Die

Wedding trends come and go, with a few that have the staying power of becoming a “tradition.” We compiled a list of wedding traditions & trends that we’re happy to see are on their way out or that we’d love to see on their way out. In no particular order, they are: 

  1. Receiving Lines

Why don’t we love receiving lines? Simply put, they don’t provide you a valuable use of your precious time on the wedding day. A better option is to provide yourself with ample cocktail hour/reception time to greet your guests and mingle. 

  1. Dollar Dances

Tacky. Besides the fact that this would need to be adjusted for inflation, doing any game on your wedding day to “ask” for money is tacky.

  1. Garter & Bouquet Tosses

As a culture, we’re starting to admit the cringe factor that is involved with this tradition. Whether you cringe because you think it’s sexist or you cringe just because it’s outright awkward, let’s let this one go.  

  1. Send offs and other activities that require the participation of all wedding guests.

The difficulty of coordinating all of your guests into an organized activity is a stress that you can easily remove from your wedding day. Along with this point, most weddings are missing some guests already by the end of the night which can mean an anticlimactic send off. 

  1. Sparklers & alcohol

Somewhat on the same note as send offs, planning a sparkler send off is problematic, especially because the guests have been drinking. It’s not only difficult to coordinate, it’s also risky.

  1. Best man first looks

A little because it’s cringy, a little because it could indeed be a disappointment for the groom. 

  1. Cheesy signage

I take issue with signage that errs on the “cutesy” side rather than the elegant side. Personal opinion :).

  1. Cake smashes

Not the best way to begin a happy marriage. Preserve that makeup right up to the end of the night and savor the cake instead.

  1. Advice to run from marriage

  2. “Yes dear” comments

These last two are basically in the same category. Negative comments about marriage are not life giving in any context, but they are especially inappropriate at a wedding. Culturally, we’ve allowed ourselves to promote a lot of negativity about the partnership & commitment of marriage. It’s time to start making life giving, encouraging comments about marriage again!